day 27“The problem is never your thinking. It’s thinking your thinking is a problem that’s the problem” – Dr George Pransky.

So feel bad about being a crap mum, be a scared coach, be fed up that you’re ‘too fat’, dare not charge enough, worry about how well you serve your clients, get angry at your mother-in-law, lose your temper and shout at the kids until you see stars in your eyes, swear at the dog and drink wine every night if you want to.

For a start YOU are not any of those things. YOU are not a bad mother, you just think you are. YOU are not slightly alcoholic – you choose to have a glass of wine some nights is all.

Feeling bad about being a crap mum is part of the human experience. We all do it (well the mums amongst us anyway) and then get ourselves in a tangle trying to find ways to not feel that feeling.

You are not a loser because you hate driving on motorways/running webinars/speaking in public.

You simply don’t like doing these things, and then you pile a load of judgemental thinking on top that just serves to make you feel even worse.

What if you found a practical solution for now? Get someone else to drive you where you need to go, don’t run webinars and don’t speak in public.

The sky will not fall in.

And one day you might fancy it.

When the noise of the ‘I’ve got to get this sorted’ quiets down, you might even hear the little ‘Glass of wine? Nah, not tonight’ that’s just passing you by.

WHO CARES if you’re checking your Facebook feed ten times an hour day? If you procrastinate or have days where you’re totally un-productive?

So I don’t like taking the glass elevator up to the top floor of the hotel? So I take the closed in one instead. I don’t consider myself a loser because of it.

My guess is the less I care, the more likely it is one day I’ll walk into the lobby and say ‘Oh, maybe I’ll do the glass elevator today’. Or not. WHO CARES?!!?

I think you’re getting the message…

“The problem is never your thinking. It’s thinking your thinking is a problem that’s the problem”

It’s OK to feel and think all these things.

Everybody does.

What if these things you’ve been working so hard to ‘get rid of ‘ or ‘have be different’ were your idiosyncracies, rather than your failures?

You’re not weird.

Just human.

Just you.

And imagine how much comes off your to-do list when you don’t have to ‘improve’ any of the above.

“The problem is never your thinking. It’s thinking your thinking is a problem that’s the problem”

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